They don't want you feeling comfortable with yourself enough to share your struggles, they don't want you being unique and sharing your lessons, they want you to fear judgement and hold yourself and your true nature/mistakes back- because if we were all to share we would soon realise how we are all one. How the lady at the bus stop is just as much you as the little girl dying of cancer. That us being one as a whole, we all provide lessons and knowledge through our suffering.
Without suffering, our consciousness doesn't grow. Without sharing our suffering our peers never grow consciousness. Without understanding the trees, water and animals are all us as much as we are them- we cannot move forward.
Suffering seems so awful, until you realise that suffering was the choice made for us to be enlightened and gain higher understanding of ourselves.
Because a child's suffering is our own as much as a flowers.
Suffering is the gift of our existence, we must cherish it and share the knowledge from it- or it becomes a waste.